Right away my dad looked at me (his eyes saying "What is this? What do we do?"), and not knowing what to do myself, I just blurted out "Let's go with it." I'm not a great dancer and neither is he at 6 foot 6 inches (think of Larry Bird busting a move), and the two of us started flailing around the dance floor trying to move as quickly as we could to the beat of the song. My dad was huffing and puffing with a big shocked grin on his face, and I was doing my best not to trip over my dress. Eventually, after what felt like eternity (and rarely does anything feel like eternity on a wedding day!), the song was cut off, "Unforgettable" came on, and our frozen grins melted into chuckles as we regained our breath.
Rick and I chose to go with an iPod when we were planning the wedding so that we could spend money on other things that were important to us. This included booking a summer camp with cabins and a swimming pond for the weekend, having a beer tasting at the rehearsal dinner, and hiring a yoga instructor to come the morning of the wedding. And I certainly wouldn't change those aspects of our wedding for the world because those were the parts that were "so us." But nevertheless, when replaying the wedding in my mind, I couldn't shake the thought that "We should have done the music differently" from my interior monologue.
The other night, however, I thought to myself that there must be other people who have had similar experiences, and where else does one go to find a like-minded, niche group of people but online. So I searched "wedding mishaps" and "wedding regrets," and as it turns out there's a whole little community of married women talking about their own wedding blunders. Apparently, the little pit shows up in many women's stomachs over things like missed photo opportunities, subpar food, and even DJs (oh the irony!). The reality of weddings is that choices need to be made, and sometimes those choices don't always pan out exactly how you pictured them in your head, but that doesn't mean that they were the wrong choices.
As I poured through the stories while sitting on my comfy couch, I laughed until my belly hurt and felt tears of joy in my eyes because I could relate to so many of the women's words and loved their insights and wisdom about their own mishaps. Each story made me smile a little more and laugh a little harder because I realized how much energy I had been wasting thinking that our wedding day should have been be anything but exactly what is was. Weddings--just like people--should be real. Both can be a bit unpredictable and a bit quirky, and that's what makes each beautiful in a unique way.
And as I write this, I see my dad's face so clearly now and remember how in sync we felt as we found our self in that surprise moment. We danced badly together and laughed and ultimately found ourselves existing in our own little universe during our father-daughter dance (well actually, dances). What more could you ask for with the people that you love most on your wedding day? It was an unexpected wedding gift--delivered a few months later--that I will now gladly carry with me for a lifetime.
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