By contrast, Rick and I had personal touches all over the place at our wedding. We--and an AMAZING group of family and friends--personalized each favor by hand, created custom wood signs, made our own centerpieces, created seating windows (our take on seating place cards), designed our own photo booth alternative, made the accent linens for our reception, wrote our ceremony, and so on and so forth--you get the idea.
There is something incredibly endearing and sweet about the simplicity of my parents' wedding, but things have certainly changed since then. To me, it seems because our ideas about love have changed as well.
When they got married it was well before the internet, and with the introduction of the internet (and of course, Pinterest), people began to see all the many ways that love could be celebrated. Why have a unity candle when you could use jars of sand from your favorite beach instead? Why have your wedding in the same hall that your mom had hers when you and you fiancé could get married in the state park where you love to hike? Why have everyone go out for your rehearsal dinner when you could have your favorite food truck come to you? Ideas that would have seemed fairly "out there" ten or twenty years ago are now embraced by blogs and boards, mothers and daughters, fiancées and fiancés, and cake decorators and cupcake bakers alike. It seems that most people agree--whatever it is that makes a couple and their love unique has a place in a modern wedding.
Meaningful twists on classic wedding traditions not only reflect the couple's love better, but keep guests engaged in and talking about the wedding. What seems like a simple creative detail (say a signature cocktail named after the couple) has a way of bringing guests together and reminding them of who they are celebrating and supporting throughout the day. As a result, everyone feels like they are a contributing to a truly special event in the first moments of the couple's new life together.
The most amazing part about the way weddings have changed is that we are constantly paving the way for more unique celebrations of love to come. And as we open our hearts to all the many shapes weddings now come in, we also open our hearts to all the many shapes love comes in. Society becomes more accepting as a whole because each wedding leaves its mark on the world.
Yet with so many ways of celebrating love now possible, a wedding—at its core—will always be just as simple as two people making a beautiful commitment to each other. So here's to doing it any way that works for you as a couple--whether it is in a church, barn, or roller rink.
(And, Mom, that certainly includes bags of almonds as favors. I know it was a beautifully sweet wedding just the way it was.)