All the DIY couples we meet are so down to earth and are just looking to have a meaningful wedding day without going into debt or stalling other dreams like growing a family and owning a home. They aren't hung up on expensive gifts and are touched by the meaningful contributions that people make to their wedding day and lives. And SoKind allows them to register for the exact, meaningful things that they need help with on their wedding day (and beyond).
Here’s how it works: You set up a registry at SoKind that allows you to put “items” on it that people will give to you as part of your wedding celebration. Need dessert? Register for it! Your aunt who makes amazing baked goods can go to SoKind and volunteer to bake the 175 cupcakes you need as your wedding gift. Need a DJ and remember that your music-loving cousin actually DJs on the side? Register! Need a set-up crew and clean-up crew? Register!
The concept is amazing because there's generally a very fine line that you want to avoid crossing when it comes to having your guests helping out with things during the wedding. DIY weddings can be amazing community events when done well (which is why we love them so much!) or guests can get DIY "burnout" when they feel they are giving tons of time and energy on top of expensive monetary gifts.
Using SoKind can help you maintain the healthy balance for your guests. Many guests would be happy to give a meaningful, time-related gift instead of a monetary gift since often weddings can strain guests' wallets as well. As we all know, weddings can be expensive for everyone, and as far as we are concerned, this registry is a game changer for DIY weddings.
On top of registering for things you need for the wedding, you can also register for other meaningful gifts like cooking classes from a loved one, a family book of recipes, or even some lessons in home repair. For more ideas, check out a sample registry here. And if you have your eye on some essential home goods and other more traditional gifts, then you can still register for them through the site.
The last thing that we love about SoKind is that it's a project of the non-profit The New American Dream and is absolutely free for you and your guests. The organization's mission is to "to cultivate a new American dream—one that emphasizes community, ecological sustainability, and a celebration of non-material values." We can totally get behind at.
So here's a Tuesday morning cheers to SoKind for helping couples embody the very best of what DIY weddings are all about--community and love at a practical price.
This information is included in our DIY Wedding e-Course along with six other helpful suggestions to keep your wedding helpers feeling the love in our lesson "How to Work with Family & Friends (and Not Alienate Them)."